What Determines Our Success in Life?

I am surprised at how many people associate success only with having or making a lot of money, and who are willing to do whatever it takes to get it. Ironically, it's exactly those people who are the unhappiest ones, and the reason is simple: success means happiness first, and happiness is what attracts all the other good things in life, not the other way around. However, there are also successful people in this world who are happy - but these are the ones who have become successful by doing something they love. And this is the only viable way that brings success in the long run. Of course, when people are struggling to make ends meet, success might seem like an intangible goal. They can't simply quit their jobs, as that would put them in dire straits - but they can do something...

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The One Critical Factor For Success

 As a Breakthrough Coach, my role is to assist women three ways: (1) helping them identify those areas in life that are not working or could use improvement; (2) uncovering the obstacles that stand in the way of moving forward; and (3) creating a structure for success that includes goal setting, support, and motivation. There is no greater feeling than seeing a client or workshop attendee put the pieces together and fashion an exciting new path for herself. In my personal as well as professional life I've discovered that although it takes several important elements pieced together to bring us what we want, there is one critical factor that is necessary for success. That element is the right mindset. Without this in place, it is extremely difficult to manifest what you want. Let's...

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Are People Pushing Your Buttons?

Do you find there are a few people that can "push your buttons" and make you feel angry, belittled, victimized or any other emotion that you dislike? Maybe it's your boss who ignores your contribution to the workplace, or a business assistant who is abrupt when you discuss a project with her, or a family member who criticizes you. Regardless of who is doing the "button-pushing" the resulting feelings you harbor can have devastating consequences including damaged relationships, mistrust, poor productivity and more. Solving this situation is important if you want to have success with less stress, worry and headaches. Your first inclination may be that the other person needs to change, but this is probably not possible. The only thing or person you have control over is you. How can...

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Turning Setbacks Into Success

From the time we are babies, we have setbacks: we don't get fed fast enough or have a wet diaper changed promptly, our frustrations leading to crying and tantrums. Setbacks, disappointments, and obstacles are unavoidable as we progress through life. It is how we handle our setbacks that will determine the results we create. Will they stop us from being successful or are there ways to turn them around to our benefit? Quitting or Winning In my office I have the following quote prominently displayed: Winners Never Quit and Quitters Never Win. How true! When we move out into the world and begin taking risks such as starting relationships or jobs, we may come face to face with obstacles. The intimacy of a growing relationship or the challenges of a new job may force us to examine our...

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Think You're a Failure?

Henry Ford once said, "If you think you can or if you think you can't, you're right." The same is true with failure. Since the true definition of success is being content with yourself, then if you think you're a failure, well... you're right! Sounds harsh, I know. Fortunately, going from failure to success isn't nearly as hard as you think. You just have to do one thing: change your mind. Here's how to do it. Stop comparing your life to others'. Success isn't the same thing as perfection. One is attainable and the other is a complete figment of your imagination. Since perfection doesn't exist, you'll never be perfect. There will always be someone who has something you don't, whether it be riches, talent, or career fulfillment, etc. Everyone has different gifts, and we all take a...

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Healthy In the Mind, Healthier In the Body

 It shouldn't surprise anyone that the more you read the greater your chances of success. Still, there are some dyslexic billionaires that don't read much at all. They have trouble learning that way. It's not that with a lot of practice they cannot become efficient readers, it's that they find ways to work around their problems and avoid reading too much. So how do they do it? Well, there are audio books, movies, and there is story-telling. You can learn a lot about how to be successful in the world and get new insight by talking to people and listening to them explain their perspectives and listening to their stories. Much of what people tell you is not exactly accurate, even if they are not really attempting to lie, perhaps they just have a bit of false memory? Or, they are trying...

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The Law of Success: An Overview of Napoleon Hill's Lesson Thirteen

Lesson thirteen in Napoleon Hill's book The Law of Success is entitled Failure. Hill says, "Neither temporary defeat nor adversity amounts to failure in the mind of the person who looks upon it as a teacher that will teach some needed lesson." You are the student if you are open to learning and growing from the experience. Hill suggests that the lessons learned in "failure", which is really a temporary defeat are often not possible to learn in any other way. When you view your setbacks in this way, you are on the road to success by learning from the mistake. Your error is only destructive if you accept it as a failure! Your enemies can be your greatest teachers. They often find your weak spots, but if you acknowledge what those weaknesses are and mend them, you can improve...

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Three Success Secrets Elite Mental Athletes Use to Win Big

 I use the term "Elite Mental Athlete" to describe the people who seem to be always successful moving onward and upward. These successful people have discovered three important success secrets, the same secrets that the world's most famous athletes use to win Olympic gold medals and national championships. The same three secrets that bring those athletes success on the court, on the green or in the arena can help you create the success you want in the office, on the Internet and in the marketplace. Sports psychologist Chris Carr says that elite athletes do these key things: 1) "Set goals wisely"; 2) "Talk to yourself"; and 3) "Visualize your performance." Elite Mental Athletes follow the same secrets. What do these keys to success look like in real life? Here are some examples: 1....

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Visualization As A Tool for Success

According to definition, visualization is the process of recreating all kinds of sounds, images, and feelings in your mind. The visualization in your mind should be surrounding an activity you want to participate in the future. Many people associate visualization as being a powerful tool for success in health, finance, personal relationships, and other aspects of life. In fact, this process is used by both men and women in virtually every area of life. Visualization is a power possessed by everyone. If you improve your skills in visualization, you will be able to accomplish your goals much faster. In simple words, visualization is the art and ability to see with your mind. It is a recreation of mental images energized and sustained by intensely concentrating on a desired goal. The...

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The Acronym of My Life - PASSION

Based on my own personal experience, I've been approached countless times by individuals who tell me that they're passionate about their business asking me to invest. As I delve deeper, majority of the time I find that the entrepreneur falls into one of these three categories: 1. These individuals only have an idea and are not willing to put in the work, nor resources, to turn that thought into reality. 2. The entrepreneur works hard in the beginning but lacks the stamina needed to build their business for the long-haul. 3. Instead of enthusiasm and excitement, these individuals actually hated their business and want out because of financial losses, overworked, etc. Just to be clear, the dictionary defines passion as "a strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about...

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Achieving Success: Minutes, Hours, Days, Years

A successful life is made up of a string of successful days. A successful day is made up of successful hours. A successful hour is made up of successful minutes. What does a successful minute or hour or year look like? We see people whom the less-wise and less-intelligent among us might think of as successful, and who are not really as successful as they are wealthy or famous. They could lose their wealth, their looks, or their fame just as fast as they gained it and there would be nothing left. We do, in fact, see that all the time. For example, professional athletes who age-out of sports and within a few years are bankrupt, in spite of having made millions of dollars per year for several years. It happens. They did well in their working lives, and they made a lot of money, but they...

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Key Success Principles To Achieve Your Goals

We all have goals in life that we would like to achieve. However, we see that only 5% of the people achieve their goals. To a common man it may seem that people who achieve their goals may have some special talent or are probably lucky. But the reality is that achieving your goal does not really depend on one's talent or on luck. It is merely a matter of understanding a few principles of success that separates the achievers from non-achievers. Following are some of the key principles of those who achieve their goals Clearly Defined and Documented Goals One of the most important principle that leads to a difference between achievers and non-achievers is having a clear goal in mind and committed on a piece of paper with dates written on it. This is an important aspect that many...

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Progress Is the Key to Achieving Success

Many people have goals, but not very many people have written goals. This is a big problem. The first step to achieving anything is to first have it clearly defined. A vague idea of what you want is not good enough. You must have every detail of what you want planned out, and the best way to do this is to write down everything you can think of that has to do with what you want to accomplish in life. This is the starting point for a successful life. Now, you must enjoy the process of getting there. It is great to have a clearly defined goal and to think about it often, but you can think about it 24/7 and that won't make it come true. You must take action! And you must enjoy this part of the process or else you will likely give up before you ever see success. The best way to...

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Learn About An Essential Key To Success

This post is not for everyone, but it is for the person who is struggling to be happy for other people who seem to be achieving success in different areas of their lives. If put simply, the inability to be happy for others in their successes, is parallel to someone protesting for their local bank to close down one day, but then submitting an application for a loan from the local bank the next day; shooting oneself in the foot yet seeking to climb a hill right after, all of which is done unknowingly of course. However, seeing others succeed is in fact a gift from the universe to us. It reminds us that if we believe, we can achieve. We can have successes too, when we to learn to understand that the successes of others are like beaming lights to us; giving us an example of how we can achieve...

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What the Rich Know That the Poor Don't

I believe that everyone has the potential to become rich, but why are the resources found only in the hands of a few? This is one of the questions that come up often. But I think the answer is not farfetched. The rich people have learnt powerful skills and timeless principles that they practice every day and this has allowed them to remain rich. These skills and principles which they have mastered, is what separates them from everyday people, it is what makes them remain in riches (wealth). Circumstances may change, but principles remain the same. Here are a few of those principles; A. Rich people Think Abundance, but Poor People Think Lack. The rich have a completely different mindset when it comes to how to make money. It begins from how they think. Scripture says "as a man thinks...

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The Many Faces of Charisma

I was 27. I had just passed the bar and was excited about making my first court appearance. It was a whole new world. I was sitting and observing, waiting for my case to be called. I was watching the "pros." Molly Pinkston was one of them. She walked to the podium with the help of a cane. She was in her sixties, with red hair and a blue hat that accentuated her look. I don't remember exactly what she said but it was the way she said it, with her unique phrasing and cadence, that had an effect on me even to this day. It was in those days that the seeds were planted. There are some people that have it, that ineffable quality often referred to as charisma. Not all of us have that mysterious quality, but charisma can be cultivated and the literature supports this belief. Psychology Today...

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Leading A Balanced Life - Yin and Yang Philosophy

Humans must also comply and do their best to live a balanced life. Remember, nature's method for informing you that you're out-of-sync and imbalanced is through stress, illnesses, fatigue, etc. With this in mind, I encourage everyone to seek harmony and balance within their own lives. To do so effectively, requires a general understanding of "yin & yang." What Is Yin & Yang? Yin & Yang consist of two complementary principles of Chinese philosophy where "Yin" represents the feminine, dark, and negative and "Yang" represents the masculine, bright, and positive. Through this philosophy, everything is seen in pairs where one compliments the other in perfect harmony. In essence, yin & yang is everywhere and everything. Not only are they opposite in nature but also reliant...

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